Some one asked me today of why I keep changing my last name, (I keep doing this in orkut) I still don’t get it why people are so jobless noticing things that are so trivial! My explanation, here it comes.
1. That’s none of your effing business.
2. I seriously hope that you would have better things to do.
3. If not, I don’t want to be annoyed with such questions.
Actually, I change it, I change it according to my whims and fancies yes, I do. Do you know that I have broad minded husband who does not flinch when some one calls me AJ or says I am not his wife just because my last name does not represent him. Thankfully my inlaws still consider me being married to their son and belong to their family while I be called as what ever I want to! But I loved to be called as SM too! I have not changed my name in any of the Govt Certificates till date, no need yet; unless I have a H1B dependent visa to be stamped immediately and he would leave me here if I don’t get it done, this definitely is not on any of the to-do’s list.
I am A.J and I loved to be called that way, I am his daughter and would continue to be so till the very end. I like being called A.M where it acknowledges the feeling of oneness and having some one to be referred upon. I answer his cell phone at times and would gleam while I answer “this is Mrs SM”, it depends on where and when I want to use. The key word here is “I”. If you have a family name to inherit that’s a different game, but if your husband or his family does not insist on doing anything like that, I guess it’s your name and you can feel free to keep it the way you want it. I am not talking about anything to do with women empowerment and all that jazz, I am just saying, let us do what we like to and let us not be questioned for every single God damn thing!!
While I use my dad’s name I feel proud to represent him, he is the one who has supported me, till I met this stranger two years ago and what sense does it make for anyone to expect a woman to lose her identity which she carried for a quarter of her life, over one night of acquisition to someone?? I respect every single woman who carry their husband’s name, but if that is what they like doing. If they don’t and they still do because of the fact that it is supposed to be like that, I am very sorry, I fail to fall in such category! I do things because I like doing them not because of that’s how it is to be done. And very honestly, I would love to have a name like Aishwarya Rai Bachan, but what the heck; the combination of dad and SM’s name would look like a long joke on me Its hard and its too long.
The point my dear friend here is, either way, it is that particular persons interest and view, some random third person does not have to take the pain of asking such fantastic questions to make their day even more fantastic.
What the hell!! This is the I lost count times of stupid things that people have asked. When are we going to grow? While I only mean our brain, please don’t take it otherwise.
