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Generation GAP??

Was talking to my sister yesterday by which I mean SMSing! That’s how we communicate, the moment she messages me saying “R U free”; I know it’s a confession or something that important and urgent.  

The girl, as I know and will always be my child, just 5yrs younger, just going to turn 20, I still see her as a kid who needs to be guarded / protected / taught, I know its ridiculous but, I’ve fed her, bathed, clothed her and I’ve lost sleep for her when she was not well and there is no other possible way I could see her!

She texts me saying that one of her very close friend, a collage mate, who I also happen to know, declared that she has been out with her BF and had spent a night with him and is now afraid of what is going to happen next, because of the ”night” she spent with him. My sister; being her very close trusted one dint know whom to ask and messaged me.  

So instead of suggesting an iPill or asking her friend to talk to her family members or doing something more sane; my frantic “you.are.suppose.to.protect.her” instinct hit the panic button and I replied “All that is fine, what about you, do you have anything going on recently?” for which the little (I thought so!!) one replies “See this is the problem with old people, they leave the issue behind and start thinking something stupid, I am feeling a gen gap appu”! WAS I SHOCKED? I literally chocked and was walking my way up to the corridor to catch some oxygen. When did 5yrs difference become a GENERATION GAP???  

I am freaking out… already! What am I going to do with my kids??   HAAAAAAAAAALLLLP!!! 

with this feeling weird post I leave a beautiful song for you all (as if i get a 1000 hits a day, nevermind)…. It has no relevance to this post, except that the word yesterday

I want Adult Free Zone

These days, there has been many demands from public! Child Free Zones are the TOP on the list! I was never in favor of that, which is again a different post but what I witnessed (or was forced to) was something more unpleasant than a 5yrs old running around knocking your drink off! At least you can clean the spill!

I had to take my Dad for a CT Scan and went to one the Famous and most populated places in Chennai. As the process of any CT Scan, the patient is suppose to keep his stomach empty and sit around for minimum of 3 hours and thats exactly where the trouble started!!

The young couple, a good looking, mid 20’s, gujju women and her husband (with ugly green jeans and  loads of GOLD jewellry all over him) were waiting along with others in the Reception probably waiting for their family members! It was all fine for a little while and slowly they started talking Loud, REALLY LOUD! This is the first thing we as Indians got to learn; Talking slowly!! We know you are holding a call from London or from Gujarat, but raising your voice definitely does not make you any closer to the location! Shouting on top of your voice about how your maid did not do that Kesar Badam milk properly or how the other sister in law bought the same saree you got for last diwali is something we are least interested in! You may wonder why, its because that WE are surrounded by elderly people with bad heart conditions and actually have challenges with other parts of their body working properly! You MAY BE DISTURBING THEM !

This is was at least OK, to what happened next, the women was tired after all that complaining and yelling  shifted her head to her husband shoulders, and the very dutiful husband starts caressing his wife’s back and neck. VERY COMFORTING, Filmy and feels great! I know !! BUT ! NOT IN-FRONT OF a bunch of people who are like your Dad or mom or even as old as your Grand Parents, Trust me, we are empathetic about public display of affections, but only if we were in a PARK or a Cinema HALL, that too these days there you got be careful with this moral policing going on! In a busy place like this SCAN Center with SICK people around. NOT QUITE Baby !!

With this very sight, my dad started shifting very uncomfortably in his seat so I had to look for a different place for him. I took him to a different area but found only one seat vacant and after letting him sit there,  I resentlyfully returned to witness the romance still going on. I had the tiniest hope that they would have got some hint by now from  the faces around, BUT ALAS, their LOVE is so bloody strong, they refuse to move out of each others hand, shoulders and body. Phew !

Then the worse thing happened, the GUY was in need of some comfort too! You cant complain can you?? After all Love is about giving and receiving right?!! He started to position his head and one side of the face on the right side of his shoulder, just below her neck and the SIGHT was way too romantic to see in real! If you people have ever noticed, these gujju marvari people have a great dressing sense, the women especially play all sorts of games with their blouses (I love them actually) and the Saree material they choose to wear is always some gorgeous Chiffon or a silky smooth grape, which is a trusted brand, but now started to be very unfaithful and kept falling off her shoulder! By which the rest of the people there were once again summoned to view the sight of the Saree Pallu giving away sexily (OH MY GOD) and the hubby darling, trying to help her cover her bodice. I don’t want to continue any more of what we all went through sitting there, few people started making rude comments loudly and showed faces abruptly for the couple to get the hint, but again LOVE did WIN!

It took me a while to shift from that place and carry on with my work! But the scene refuse to get out of my mind! For all of us who demand the Children Free zone and other things I for once DEMAND ADULT Free ZONES, I want certain type of places to have a board telling politely how to behave. I mean its none of my effing business, but there only as much a person can handle right? Let them have their dose of “Sharing” and “Giving” in their respective bedrooms or anywhere else private, PLEASE do not  suffocate the poor public with your LURVE !! Especially in places like HOSPITALS and RAILWAY STATIONS where you are forced to wait for long hours and you have no where to go! I hope they would some day learn that public display of affection is a turn on for the spouses definitely NOT for the GEN Public!!

This is not the first time I am being a seeing something like this, such sites are quite common in Buses, Trains and in Parks or even in the Hotels (its quite romantic when your partner feeds you, you tried??). The issue is as I said PDA (Public Display of Affection) is quite nice, its a feel good factor only when it is a very pleasant when you do the right things; Now I dont want to be answering questions on who sets the standards and who will decide what the right thing is and all that!! DONT WE have something called as Brain in a working condition, which has something called common sense in it? I am saying lets put that damn thing in USE!! What set me off completely was, these are the married ones, living in a big joint family and they know how these kind of things works infront of elders or gen public!  

The funniest thing here is, If it was a bunch of KIDS misbehaving, we can actually politely tell them not to do so, but with these so called adults, we just dont stand a chance! Do we?

PS* = Please dont jump and yell about how judgemental i am and all that crap, I have LOADS of WELL BEHAVED GUJJU AND MARVARI FRIENDS who are very precious to me and IT IS VERY UNFORTUNATE that the couple I SAW happen to be one among them and THAT IS IT!

A to Z of ME!

This is something I picked up on the way and the place is here. No it’s not plagiarism, for the love of God! Think like this, you are roaming on Pondy Bazaar, you see a girl wear an awesome tunic and ask her where she got it and you go exactly right there and buy the same, is that plagiarism?? No right.

A – Available?
A very precious few.

B – Best friend:
As of now its M, she knows everything of my everyday. These days!

C – Cake or Pie?
Both, even at the same time.

D – Drink of choice:
Coffee, Vodka with Sprite, Green Tea.

E – Essential thing used everyday
Tooth Paste, Brush, Soap, Comb

F – Favourite color:
Black (now I don’t want to hear those people who says black is a absence of color and all that crap!)

G – Gummi bears or worms:
You got be kidding me?

H – Hometown:
For now Chennai

I – Indulgence:
A Brilliant, well illustrated book. A new Wrist watch of my choice, A beautiful Perfume. Amma samaiyal.

J – January or February:
Feb – That’s my month

K – Kids and names:
As and when they come out!

L – Life:
Turn each and every page only after you have fully read / enjoyed the current one!

M – Marriage date:
End of the year, Heavy Rains and beautiful Wednesday of an October two years before.

N – Number of siblings:
One – Younger

O – Oranges or apples:
Apples. Oranges also!

P – Phobias:
A set of humans, Lizards.

Q – Quote:

“My capacity for happiness, you could fit it into a matchbox without taking out the matches first”. – Marvin in H2G2

“I take everything personally, That’s what being a person is all about” – Karla Saaranen, Shantaram

“If fate does not make you laugh then you just don’t get the joke” – Shantharam.

R – Reason to smile:
That I am still live and kicking.

S – Season:
November Rains.

T – Tag three people:
I tag no one. Coz I’ve been accused so many times for doing so! Another one tag from Me., Am dead! Oh Wait, I Tag TD. I don’t know if he would do this, may be he is busy stitching Obama buttons or cleaning Bushit from white house or he could also be in Costco buying rotten veg and fruits or simply hanging there staring at  Sales girls.

U – Unknown fact about me:
I kill people for food & Vodka ! nah… kidding !!

V – Vegetable you do not like:
I don’t know the name in English, in Tamizh we call it “Senai Kzhangu”

W – Worst habit:
Letting people hurt me easily, Procrastination, Over Confidence, Not cleaning my nose and etc etc!!

X – x-rays you have had:
Thank GOD for small mercies.

Y – Your favorite food:
Food.

Z – Zodiac:
The Awesome Water Bearer – Aquarian :)

PS * Now people can actually claim that they know A to Z of me!

(Miss)interpret!

With so much happening around in life, people often confuse things really bad. The simpler the issue the more confusing / complicated it’s made.

 

The other day in the crowded bus, the people started passing on tickets as I was standing next to the conductor, I ended up doing most of his job. When my stop had come and I refused to do (very politely) any more passing the money game, the people on the farther end of the bus started  making rude comments about how I am standing in a very comfortable place and is not helping anyone…I was shocked to only find that my tolerance is being taken for a bloody ride! I felt like people walking all over me!

 

Just because I kept quite and passed on all the money that came my way does not mean I am Holier than Thou or the other way round, I could also be a mean lil F*** who steals others ticket money for all that matter? How the hell would they differnciate!? I refused to do so any further because it is my f**king time to get off the bus!

 

I dint say a word to them, instead I gave a piece of my mind to the conductor telling him that its his job to go around collecting tickets and not keeping his behind in a very cozy place and letting the passengers quarrel among them.

 

I realized that often my patience is been conveniently understood as a lack of aggression in anything. Tolerance as cowardice.

 

Then when I decide to let go of things and move on, I am considered to be compromising on all my dreams and values. I’ve been called as some one who does not care about others feelings.  Also I’ve been blamed for not being strong and giving up or giving in quickly.

 

When I actually decide to compromise willingly or unwillingly, I am seen as some one who constantly does things to please others!! What the hell?? haven’t you people actually given up something you really like for some one you love more than that particular thing?

 

The most ridiculous of all is, when you actually go and apologize, or try to mend things between you and some one else, immaterial of whether the mistake is yours or NOT, YOU considered to be THE BLACK SHEEP. When you do make the first move, you are being accused to have been feeling guilty for whatever happened!!

 

What did we learn in school or in collage? what was the purpose of we all spending countless sleepless nights to do SAT and GMAT?? Where are our reasoning skills? Is there a thing called Perception around?

 

The last time I checked the purpose of any education is make a human better than who he actually was! To change your perception, to alter your views and to unlearn a lot of things. 

 

Why is being nice and simple termed as being so not so cool, and tagged as not having an ATTITUDE? or alienated? Why are the tolerable, considerate, forbearing people being called, TIMID, SHY, IN-SECURED, VULNERABLE and an ATTENTION SEEKER? Why is that I often feel like a very dirty doormat? Or is it me or is it the Price I pay for being actually Nice?