With so much happening around in life, people often confuse things really bad. The simpler the issue the more confusing / complicated it’s made.
The other day in the crowded bus, the people started passing on tickets as I was standing next to the conductor, I ended up doing most of his job. When my stop had come and I refused to do (very politely) any more passing the money game, the people on the farther end of the bus started making rude comments about how I am standing in a very comfortable place and is not helping anyone…I was shocked to only find that my tolerance is being taken for a bloody ride! I felt like people walking all over me!
Just because I kept quite and passed on all the money that came my way does not mean I am Holier than Thou or the other way round, I could also be a mean lil F*** who steals others ticket money for all that matter? How the hell would they differnciate!? I refused to do so any further because it is my f**king time to get off the bus!
I dint say a word to them, instead I gave a piece of my mind to the conductor telling him that its his job to go around collecting tickets and not keeping his behind in a very cozy place and letting the passengers quarrel among them.
I realized that often my patience is been conveniently understood as a lack of aggression in anything. Tolerance as cowardice.
Then when I decide to let go of things and move on, I am considered to be compromising on all my dreams and values. I’ve been called as some one who does not care about others feelings. Also I’ve been blamed for not being strong and giving up or giving in quickly.
When I actually decide to compromise willingly or unwillingly, I am seen as some one who constantly does things to please others!! What the hell?? haven’t you people actually given up something you really like for some one you love more than that particular thing?
The most ridiculous of all is, when you actually go and apologize, or try to mend things between you and some one else, immaterial of whether the mistake is yours or NOT, YOU considered to be THE BLACK SHEEP. When you do make the first move, you are being accused to have been feeling guilty for whatever happened!!
What did we learn in school or in collage? what was the purpose of we all spending countless sleepless nights to do SAT and GMAT?? Where are our reasoning skills? Is there a thing called Perception around?
The last time I checked the purpose of any education is make a human better than who he actually was! To change your perception, to alter your views and to unlearn a lot of things.
Why is being nice and simple termed as being so not so cool, and tagged as not having an ATTITUDE? or alienated? Why are the tolerable, considerate, forbearing people being called, TIMID, SHY, IN-SECURED, VULNERABLE and an ATTENTION SEEKER? Why is that I often feel like a very dirty doormat? Or is it me or is it the Price I pay for being actually Nice?
